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18.09.2019

You’ve got problems, I’ve got advice. This advice isn’t sugar-coated—in fact, it’s sugar-free, and may even be a little bitter. Welcome to Tough Love.

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Sometimes, slow internet is the universe’s way of telling you to go play outside. Other times, it’s the universe’s cruel joke to destroy your productivity. Jan 13, 2010. Software Help for NaNoWriMo. Snowflake Pro. Snowflake Pro came out last November, too late for me to use it to plan my NaNo 2009 novel. I had all but forgotten it until this week. Of course, I like starting off with pen to paper for my brainstorming anyway, but once I get to the part where I need to organize.

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This week we have a guy who wants to end things with his sex buddy who seems to think they’re something more.

Keep in mind, I’m not a therapist or any other kind of health professional—just a guy who’s willing to tell it like it is. I simply want to give you the tools you need to enrich your damn lives. If for whatever reason you don’t like my advice, feel free to file a formal complaint here. Now then, let’s get on with it.

I work for a large company and ended up hanging out with a coworker (in a different department) who I eventually had sex with. The kicker, though, is that I’ve never been incredibly into “dating” her. We talked about sex from the beginning and we finally crossed that line. Since then we’ve had sex maybe 10 to 15 times (all of them pretty fantastic by the way), but I can tell that she is leaning toward wanting more. She uses pet names and I don’t. We have only hung out at our apartments—we don’t hang out at work at all—and we’ve never gone on a date. I’ve brought her Starbucks twice… and that’s the extent of it.

I usually skirt the issue and let her know that I’m busy. I text her back but I don’t really initiate the texting, and I’ve slowed down my need for sex with her significantly. But we always end up hanging out when I’m bored on Saturday and having sex anyway. I don’t dislike her company, but when we are done I can tell with her that it is much more than sex.

Even though she has said she’s fine with just sex, I feel like she wants more. It’s been over a year since we first started talking and I’m starting to believe she thinks we are more serious than we are. I’ve never been great about breaking up and so I’m curious what this type of situation requires. Can I text her? A phone call? An in-person awkward conversation? I want to be respectful but I also don’t want it to seem more serious than it is. I feel like if I talk to her in person I’m somewhat acknowledging the “commitment” that I’ve never truly felt.

Sincerely,

Not Feeling It

Hey Not Feeling It:

I gotta say, a little communication would have gone a long way in this situation. First off, you should absolutely talk to her in person about ending things. How old are you, dude? You’ve been intimate with this woman at least 10 times over the course of several months, for Pete’s sake! And you’ve been friends—FRIENDS—for over a year! I don’t understand why you don’t think that warrants a face-to-face... What, you can only see her in person if it means you get to bang her? Damn, man, have some empathy.

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Talking to her like she’s a person you even remotely care about does not automatically mean you were once committed in a super-serious relationship. Even if it did, you’re looking to end things, so it doesn’t matter. There’s no Serious Relationships Bureau that will note it down on your permanent record. Call her, ask her to meet you somewhere public (not your apartments or where you work), and tell her what’s going on. She might be fine with it ending because she wants something real. She might be a little confused and you’ll have to explain what’s bothering you. Or, OR! You might just find out that you’re not the mega-stud you thought you were, and that she’s not interested in anything more either.

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Maybe she means it when she says “she’s fine with just sex,” maybe the pet names are because she doesn’t want to say your name (or doesn’t want to mix it up with someone else’s); maybe the fact you’ve never gone on a date or been anywhere but your apartments is exactly what she wanted too; maybe the fact that she initiates the texting makes you HER booty call. I’m not saying this is the case, but you’ll never really know until you talk to her about this stuff.

Have you thought about this situation from her perspective at all? Perhaps she’s not this damaged, precious thing that needs anything beyond your “pretty fantastic” lovin’. Either way, man up and talk to her, in person, with your mouth. You’ll be fine, and you’ll have an opportunity to clear the air if there’s any confusion. This what mature, respectful adults do.

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Now, before you go, Not Feeling It, I have one more piece of advice. I don’t know what kind of conversations you’ve had, you didn’t say, but if things are actually the way you say they are, you should have been more upfront about the situation right from the get go. You should have said you’re not interested in dating or getting serious because your current timeline of “hanging out > becoming friends > having sex > continuing to do so” sure looks an awful lot like typical dating trajectory. I could see where one might get confused if you weren’t explicitly clear about just being sex buddies.

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That’s it for this week, but I still have plenty of blunt, honest advice bottled up inside. Tell me, what’s troubling you? Is work getting you down? Are you having problems with a friend or a coworker? Is your love life going through a rough patch? Do you just feel lost in life, like you have no direction? Tell me, and maybe I can help. I probably won’t make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, but sometimes what you need is some tough love. Ask away in the comments below, or email me at the address you see at the bottom of the page (please include “ADVICE” in the subject line). Or tweet at me with #ToughLove! Also, DO NOT EMAIL ME IF YOU DON’T WANT YOUR REQUEST FEATURED. I do not have time to respond to everyone just for funsies. ‘Til next time, figure things out for yourself.

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LIfehacker's Complete Guide to WifiWireless networking is complicated, but it doesn't have to be. Let us help you out.

What’s more annoying than having a great wifi or Ethernet connection, but slow internet speeds? Nothing. Nothing is more annoying than that. When it happens to you—and it will, especially if you jump onto wifi access points at your favorite local businesses—you’re going to wish you could do anything to speed up your connection.

While we can’t reach out from Lifehacker Headquarters and tell your public wifi point to speed things up, nor can we tell that person next to you at the coffee shop to maybe go easy on the BitTorrent today, we can give you a few suggestions to troubleshoot, fix, or simply survive a slow internet connection.

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10. Check your speeds (and your internet plan)

Sometimes, your internet connection is slow because you’re paying for crappy internet. Log onto your provider’s web site (or give them a call) and find out what plan you have. Then head on over to fast.com (or any number of alternative sites) and run a speed test. If what you’ve measured is close to what you’re paying for, then your network is working fine and your internet plan just isn’t very fast—the best way to speed it up will be to upgrade.

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9. Give your hardware the universal fix

Before you go cursing your internet provider, give your modem and router a quick reset (i.e., turn them off and on again) and see if that helps. Check the other computers in your house to see if their internet is slow, too. If the problem only happens on one computer, the problem is that computer, not your router or modem.

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8. Know your hardware’s limitations

If you’re paying for a super-fast internet plan—say, a fiber connection that gets you a mighty 1 Gbps (1,000 Mbps)—you’re never going to see those speeds if the primary wifi router in your house is some antiquated wireless-n device. Similarly, you might have an awesome wireless-ac router (with a faster-than-1 Gbps top speed), but if you’re connecting to it with an older or cheaper laptop, or even a regular PlayStation 4 gaming console, you’re going to wonder why your transfer speeds are so slow. Same deal.

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We’ve talked about theseissuesextensively, so here’s the super-short version: When possible, get a great router with a lot of potential throughput (two-stream wireless-ac at least), which should generally give your speedier devices the best possible speeds (on a 5GHz wifi network, of course). If a particular device is underperforming by a significant degree, check its network specs. It might be doing the best it can, but it just can’t go any faster. Your network isn’t slow; your device just can’t keep up.

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7. Fix your wifi signal

Speaking of wifi, you might find that your router and internet are fine, but your wireless signal is weak. This can cause a slowdown—or, at minimum, a latency-filled browsing experience. In that case, you may need to reposition, tweak, and boost your router with a few tricks.

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There are more than we could share in one paltry paragraph—in fact, we have a whole top 10 list just for fixing wifi, so check that out if you suspect your wireless signal is the problem. (And, yes, there are plenty of free apps you can use to check signal problems and see how well your router handles the rest of your concrete house.)

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6. Turn off or limit bandwidth-hogging apps

If your hardware seems to be in working order, see if any other programs are hogging the connection. For example, if you’re downloading files with BitTorrent, regular web browsing is going to be slower. You should also try installing extensions like AdBlock Plus and Privacy Badger, which will block some of the bandwidth-hogging ads, animations, and videos that can use up your connection. (You can also try a different browser entirely, like the privacy-minded Brave.)

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File-syncing services like Google Drive, Dropbox, or OneDrive might be moving data in the background, which can eat up your bandwidth and slow down your internet connection. Check these, and other bandwidth-hungry apps (like your favorite digital download services for games) to see if you can limit their download and upload rates, which might free up room for you to browse the web and catch up on your Netflix queue without issue.

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Computers often download necessary updates in the background. Depending on your operating system, you configure your PC to schedule updates when you’re not using your computer. Better yet, you might be able to limit the bandwidth it uses, in case its hogging up your connection (for the most noble of intentions).

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5. Try a new DNS server

When you type an address into your browser, your computer uses something called DNS to look up and translate that into a computer-friendly IP address. Sometimes, though, the servers your computer uses to look up that information can have issues, or go down entirely. Thankfully, you have plenty of faster, free options to use, like Google DNS or Cloudflare (to name two of our favorites). Or you can use a utility like Namebench to actually test what’s the speediest for your location and go with that.

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4. Call your internet provider

If you’ve gone through all the necessary troubleshooting steps and your internet is still slow, then it’s time to call your internet provider and see if the problem is on their end. Remember: don’t just assume they’ve done something wrong, and treat your customer service representative with respect. You’re much more likely to get good results.

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And while you’re at it, you might want to see if you can get a better deal on your internet—especially if they’ve been giving you the wrong speeds all this time.

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3. Optimize your web for a slow connection

Troubleshooting slow internet can take awhile, and in the meantime you still need to browse. Or maybe you’re at a coffee shop or on a plane, and there’s nothing you can do about your slow speeds. In that case, it’s time to optimize your web for a slower connection. Try a>

If your wifi or Ethernet connection is suffering on your laptop, and you really need to get online, you can always tether your smartphone—just be mindful of your mobile data limits. (Now is probably not the time to start burning through your Netflix queue.)

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2. Work smarter

If you need to get work done on your slow connection, you may have to prioritize tasks differently than if your internet were super fast. Separate your tasks into bandwidth-heavy and bandwidth-light ones. Get the light ones done when you’re on your slow connection, and group all the bandwidth-heavy tasks together so you can do them if and when you get a speedier connection.

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Also, don’t forget about your apps’ offline modes. Some services might require you to set this up in advance (Steam, Google Docs, and OneDrive’s “Files On-Demand mode” come to mind, as does Spotify’s download feature), but doing so will ensure that you’ll be able to access whatever you need—be it games or documents—when your connection is terrible or nonexistent.

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1. Don’t worry about it

If you’re lucky, you can get your internet speeds back up to snuff quickly and stress-free. But, if not, you can at least try to put a good spin on it: As long as your work isn’t too bandwidth-intensive, slow internet could actually make you more productive. After all, if Facebook takes a minute to load, you’re a lot less likely to pop over for a “quick break” (that turns into an hour-long photo-fest) when you’re supposed to be working on that term paper.

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This story from Whitson Gordon originally ran 6/2013. It was updated with new information and additional reporting by Patrick Austin 8/2017, and updated once again by David Murphy 5/2019.

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